Wife here:
But, why remain faithful as the husband?
If you aren’t interested in sleeping with other women then you won’t, you’ll stay faithful to your wife because that’s what you want to do. It’s not a tit for tat game where everyone keeps score and if the wife is getting some then the husband better be as well. The variety of ways in which people play is so vast that there are many answers to this I’m sure but ultimately I think it’s because they don’t want to fuck other women and that’s really all there is to it.
If the husband also sleeps around, then it delves into Swinging, but I just dont see as much action or focus around that area then Hotwifing
That’s because it’s swinging and not hotwifing so you’re not likely to find as much info about swinging in a hotwife forum. Also there is a hothusband sub for the husbands who do play solo from their wives (therefore aren’t exactly swingers)
Whats the psychology behind the idea of a wife sleeping with other men, but not the other way around?
I’m not a psychologist so I can’t answer but there are a few books and some literature on the psychology of open relationships and wife sharing. There’s a myriad of reasons and theories but at the end of the day everyone has their own kinks and preferences and this is just another one of them.
It seems like an “unequal” relationship to me
I assume that you perceive unequal to be a negative thing and that it’s unfair for only one half of the couple to play outside of marriage. Unequal and unfair are two very different things though. If everyone is happy and satisfied than what’s fair and equal don’t really matter. Technically it’s fair and equal in that my husband asked me to fulfill this kink, I’m doing it for him (well and for me to but some ladies do seem to do it solely for their spouses benefit). He gets pleasure in the way he wants (pics, video, MFM, sharing his wife, etc); just because he’s not fucking someone else doesn’t mean that he’s not getting equal or greater pleasure out of this fantasy.
My perspective on my husband sleeping around…I’m ok with it. It took a little while to think it over and see how I really felt about it. I think that anything that makes him happy I’m on board with. I’m secure in what we have and I want him to have every pleasure and happiness available, including getting some strange from time to time. It works for us, not for everyone. We don’t feel that things have to be equal or fair 100% of the time as long as at the end of the day we’re happy then all is good.
